With divorce on the rise in Japan, some couples are choosing to celebrate the end of an unhappy marriage by saying “I do” for a final time at a divorce ceremony before friends and family.
Divorce ceremonies were pioneered about a year ago by a former salesman, Hiroki Terai, who set up a “divorce mansion” in a small undercover space in Tokyo.
Since then about 25 couples have each paid 55,000 yen ($600) to hold a ceremony with all the pompand grandeur of a wedding that publicly ends their relationship before they officially file for divorce.Terai said he had received more than 900 inquiries.
此后，有25 對夫妻來此舉辦了離婚典禮，典禮的隆重程度不亞于婚禮。在正式申請離婚前，這些夫妻?a href=’http://www.xuexila.com//www.xuexila.com/yangsheng/kesou/’ target=’_blank’>咳嗽敢饣ǚ?.5 萬日元(600 美元)在正式申請離婚前公開結束婚姻關系。據寺井介紹，至今他已收到900 多人的詢問。
The latest couple, who called themselves Mr and Mrs Fujii, met near Sensoji Temple in Tokyo’s traditional Asakusa area on Sunday and rode in separate rickshaws to the divorce mansion. “By putting an end to our marriage, we wanted to give ourselves fresh starts and give our lives a sense of renewal,”said Mr Fujii, a 33-year-old businessman.
最近一次離婚典禮于上周日舉行。當天一對自稱藤井的夫婦在東京老城區淺草區的淺草寺附近會合，之后各乘一輛人力車前往離婚公館。33 歲的商人藤井先生說：“結束這段婚姻后，我們想給自己一個新的開始，迎接新生活?！?br /> Friends and family of the Fujii couple followed closely behind the rickshaws on foot, arriving at the divorce mansion for a ceremony where the Fujiis smashed their wedding ring with a gavel, a gesture signifying the end of their partnership.
The gavel has a frog’s head as frogs symbolize change in Japanese culture.
“When we smashed the ring together, I felt like‘Oh, this is the end of it, really’and my heart and soul felt renewed. Now I feel I can have a new life and start all over again,” said Mr Fujii. His wife of eight years also expressed relief.
“The moment I saw the smashed ring, I said to myself‘, Yes! That feels so good’,” Mrs Fujii said.
Divorce is on the rise in Japan, where it was once taboo, with about 251,000 divorces taking place in 2008, partly blamed on the poor economy?taking its toll on?romance.
離婚在日本曾是禁忌，如今日本的離婚率卻不斷攀升。2008 年日本約有25.1 萬對夫婦離婚。經濟不景氣要對婚姻的破裂負一定責任。
People who enjoy a dream-filled sleep are significantly better at recalling information and making links between facts when they wake, scientists found.
But recharging with a shallow nap offers no such mental boost, the research suggests.
The results of the study add to the growing body of evidence that Rapid Eye Movement (REM) sleep is crucial to the brain’s ability to lay down and consolidate memories.
An average night’s repose includes four or five spells of REM sleep, but these bursts tend to be lengthier towards the end of the night.
在夜間睡眠過程中，通常會有四到五個周期的REM 階段。直到天亮之前，REM 間隔周期呈逐漸延長的趨勢。
This means that adults who get less than the recommended seven to eight hours a night-and therefore insufficient REM sleep-may be damaging their mind’s ability to form strong memories.
這就意味著，睡眠時間不足7-8 小時標準睡眠時間的成年人無法保障充分的REM 睡眠時間，因此他們形成牢固記憶的能力有可能會受損。
Although REM sleep is not classified as a type of deep sleep, it is only reached after the brain has passed through deep sleep stages.
REM 睡眠并不屬于深度睡眠的范疇，只有在經過深度睡眠后，大腦才能進入REM 睡眠階段。
Scientists have been working on connections between sleep, dreams and brain activity since the REM state was first identified in 1953 by US researchers.
自1953 年美國研究人員首次確認REM 睡眠狀態以來，科學家一直致力于研究睡眠、夢境以及大腦活動三者之間的關聯。
They found that people woken while their closed eyes made jerking movements recalled much more colorful and elaborate dreams than people woken during other stages of sleep.
It is now believed that sleep acts as a sort of mental filing system, enabling the brain to sort relevant information that needs to be retained from useless information which can be discarded.This process may take place as memories are shifted from one part of the brain to others.
Based upon my own observations and experiences, here are the types of people who typically do not succeed in life:
1.People who do not take personal responsibility for themselves or their decisions.
2.People who blame other people for their mistakes.
3.People who believe there is some vast conspiracy to keep them down due to their race, skin color, religion, gender, or other similar identity factors.
4.People who normalize the symptoms of generational poverty, i.e., drug and alcohol abuse, violence, etc.
5.People who are parasitic upon other people.
6.People who believe that they are somehow owed success without putting in the commensurate amount of work needed to be successful.
7.People who are easily distracted by partying, going out, etc.
8.People who are too stubborn or proud to learn from their mistakes and make the necessary adjustments.
9.People who are too stubborn or proud to learn from others. This stifles both personal and professional growth.
10.People who make poor life decisions that have long-lasting consequences, such as getting married/having children before you can properly provide for them, marrying the wrong person, living beyond one’s means, etc.
11.People who believe that there is some sort of nobility in poverty. Example: “I might not have much but at least I’m a good person.” This is typically a justificationfor their current life circumstances.
12.People who care more about what other people think of them than they care about their own success. This typically results in self-destructive searching for validation.
13.People with past trauma that causes them to engage in self-destructive behavior. In most cases, this type of person will sabotage their own success at pivotal moments in their careers so they can be “in control” of the failure they anticipate they will experience.
14.People who are unable to believe that they can ever be great and do great things.
I’m sure there are other reasons but you get the general idea. Success is a mindset. You have to believe you will be successful. Once you can do that, you free yourself up to do the things you need to do to succeed, such as working hard, researching, trying new strategies, etc. Some of the biggest success stories in life were written by people who weren’t any smarter than the average person. The only thing they had was this undying belief that they could do it… and they did.