Fear comes from the fact that you THINK you cannot act or will act incorrectly. But if you actually try, even though you’re scared as hell, you’ll often realize that these fears didn’t have any foundations. They can be blown away if you tell yourself you’ll just do it whatever happen. In many cases you’ll think that death is your worse case, but you have to realize you’re over-exagerating.
It’s crazy how much our brain can work in order to protect us against ourself. Imagine you’re in a plane, about to jump out of it to do some parachuting. You’ve never done that before. When you’re about to jump, the brain jumps in and start giving you every bit of information it has against parachuting because fear has a seed into you brain. But if you’ve been jumping out of airplanes for ages, let me tell you the brain simply doesn’t care anymore because it knows nothing will (generally) happen. This concept is the core idea of doing one thing that scares you every day.
When you push your limits, the number of fears you have start to decrease. With time you will start understanding that all those fears are just crap that your brain creates to protect you from the unknown but you’ll also know that this unknown is not THAT dangerous. Approaching girls on the street is something many guys are just going to freeze if they have to do it, but it is possible. It just takes time and effort. If you do it one step at a time you’ll realize that there’s nothing really dangerous about doing it.
What is really interesting from doing this technique every day is that you experience a good amount of adrenaline through your body. It’s also really great to have done something you thought you couldn’t do. Doing this will make your life at least a thousand time better because there won’t be any barriers to stop you. You’ll get a better life, more respect from your peers, more control over yourself and will be able to share lots of experiences other might never thought about doing because they are too scared to follow the “Do one thing every day that scares you” mentality. But YOU ARE STRONG.
If you do things you think shouldn’t be doing, sometimes you get opposite results: you get what you were looking for. Take this example: you put money into a saving account which gives you a poor return rate but you do so because you are “scared” of losing your money. You decide it’s time to apply your new mentality and take the money and start buying shares instead. Maybe for the first transactions you’ll have a bit of a rush/adrenaline going on because you aren’t sure of what’s going to happen, but then you are really proud of what you did. Even though you might have made mistakes, by doing what you were afraid of you removed a barrier you had. As time goes by, you learn how the market works and you’ll get better. You’ll might even make thousands of thousand by doing it. And now you’re REALLY happy because you got past what you were looking for: earning something with the money you had. What the real accomplishment is, is that you’ve shown to yourself you were able to get over a fear you had. Amazing.
Fear is the only thing that limits you from acting and YOU WANT TO ACT. Don’t let those fears control you for all your life, start showing them who’s the real boss here.
Have you ever been annoyed by a successful person, because you thought you were more intelligent than them? Maybe it was a boss. Maybe it was a political figure or a leader.
It’s especially maddening when this person is creating rules that dictate your life. I can definitely relate. I’ve had my share of bosses that I thought were less than brilliant.
So what is it that makes them successful? That’s what I’ve always wondered and what has always bugged me. I mean, shouldn’t intelligence be a prerequisite to leadership? The answer… not really.
It turns out the biggest reason people are successful is: consistent action, not intelligence.
Then the question is, are these three words ruining your life…?
The unmagical words
Those words are: I don’t know.
It’s not drive, it’s not motivation, it’s not lack of passion that keeps people from doing what they want. It’s not knowing where to start, or how to get from A to B. That’s the single biggest reason people don’t take action to make their dreams a reality.
So how can we overcome this? How can we stop letting obscurity keep us from becoming successful? The answer is pretty simple: You have to develop the ability to stop caring about not knowing. (I’ve written about this before, where I call it “putting yourself on auto-response.”)
You have to cultivate the habit of doing before knowing. This seems like a daunting thing to do, but it’s really actually a very easy habit to create. And there are a multitude of possibilities that exist right now that you can practice it.
Easiest thing in the world
For example, how many time does your spouse or partner ask you “What do you want to have for dinner?” and you respond, “I don’t know.” (This happens to me all the time, and it’s maddening.) Next time, instead of using those three dirty words, just ask yourself, “What’s something I’d like to have for dinner?” and then respond.
Now do this when someone asks where you’d like to hang out, or what you’d like to spend the evening doing. Instead of re-actively saying “I don’t know,” take the time to come up with a response. Even if you’re not 100% completely stoked about the idea, just come up with something you’d be satisfied with doing. Anything other than I don’t know is an improvement.
Next, try asking yourself “How could I best use my time, right now?” or “What is the highest leverage use of my time, right now?” Take a minute to brainstorm and mentally prioritize. If you’re having trouble coming up with an answer, just pick whatever you think would be the most productive use of your time. Remember, anything is better than the three words we shall not speak of.
Just imagine all of the possibilities for you to practice actively making decisions based on your desires, rather than re-actively defaulting to unconsciousness. There are so many little ways you can practice this skill. I think you’ll be surprised at how often you’re able to rehearse it.
The difference between living and existing
Okay, so you’ve mastered it with the little stuff. Now it’s time to use it on the things that really matter. Stuff like your passions and career.
If you’re not doing something you love or at least like for a living, you’re selling yourself short. And I bet the reason why you’re not pursuing something better is because you don’t know what you’d rather do. Instead of allowing that not knowing to dwell in your psychic space, cast it out. Don’t tolerate it anymore. If you don’t know what you’re passionate about, move from not knowing to seeking a path that will allow you to explore what you might love to do. This might mean reading a book on different career pursuits. It might mean googling your hobbies for possible career intersections. Whatever it is, practice that until you move into a state of knowing.
The reason I’m so passionate about this is because I’ve seen so many lives unfulfilled because of not knowing. It saddens me to think that such a simple phrase can have such a devastating impact.
I urge you to practice moving in the direction of knowing, when you feel stuck in a state of indecision. All it takes is one little shift.
It could mean the difference between making a dying and making a living.
有沒有對某些成功人士心存不屑，因為覺的自己遠比他們聰明的多?也許這個人是你老板?；蛘呤悄硞€政要首腦。而讓人更討厭的是有些時候這些人的決策往往又 將影響你的生活。幾乎可以肯定。 我以前的某些老板就不是很聰明。但到底是什么讓他們成為成功人士?我一直想知道答案也一直被這些問題所困擾。 我的意思是，難道才智不是成為領袖的首要條件么?但答案…還真的不是。
你需要培養在瞻前顧后之前開始行動的習慣? 這看起來有點嚇人，但確是個很容易培養的習慣。 現在有很多辦法可以讓你去實踐。
舉個例子，有多少次你的愛人或者同伴問起“今天的晚餐你想吃些什么?”而你卻回答“不知道”或者“無所謂”。 (難以置信的是，我就經常這樣說。) 下一次如果在有人問起，嘗試不要說這三個字，而是在心里問問自己，“晚餐我真的想吃什么?”再做回答。
從現在開始當別人問起去哪兒消遣或者晚上要做什么的時候都先想一下。。不要直接脫口而出“我不知道”， 真正花點時間思考一下。就算你想的事情不是完全那么激動人心，最起碼拿出一件你真心想做的事情作為答案。 不在用“我不知道”作為應付已經是個進步了。
好的，現在你已經能控制小事上的反應了。 現在將他們用在更有意義的事情上。 比如你的事業或者熱情所在。
如果你不是以你所愛或者最起碼以你所喜歡的事業謀生，你的生活就是在投機。 而且我認為你不去追求更高目標的原因是因為你不知道什么是更應該做的。不要繼續任由自己處于茫然，你應該將這種思維趕走。。不要允許自己有這樣的想法。如果你不知道自己對什么事有激情的話，起碼從這種茫然中走出來，找一份你可以探索的職業，或許你就會找到激情。也許這就代表現在拿起一本其他行業的書籍。 也許代表在Googles上搜索一下自己的興趣范圍里有什么樣的職業。 無論怎樣， 一直保持練習，直到你能習慣性的做出符合自己意愿的決策。
Are you waiting for your dreams to come true and change your life?
I am sorry to tell you that dreams don’t come true.
Rather, it is your goals that can forever change your life.
You need to set goals in order turn your dreams into reality.
Don’t Confuse Dreams and Goals
Dreams are easy. They are free, too.
However, dreams by themselves are just that… dreams.
They are imaginary. And they don’t produce tangible results.
You need to turn your dreams into action. You need goals to make the visions of your dreams real.
“Dreams can inspire you, but goals can change your life.”
Goals are all about action. Goals turn dreams into reality.
Goals change you and can change your life.
Don’t confuse your dreams with goals.
Dreams occupy your mind. Goals take over your reality.
What will it take to turn your dreams into goals?
Here are 10 Big Differences Between Goals and Dreams:
Goals are something you are acting on.
Dreams are something you are just thinking about. Goals require action. Dreams can happen without lifting a finger, even while you are asleep.
Goals have deadlines. Dreams are just, well, dreams.
Goals must have a deadline. They have a time limit. Dreams can go on forever. In fact, many people maintain dreams their entire lives without ever reaching them.
Dreams are free. Goals have a cost.
While you can daydream for free, goals don’t come without a price. Time, money, effort and sweat. How will you pay for your goals?
Goals produce results. Dreams don’t.
Want to change your life? Your job? Your status in life? Goals can do that. A good friend of mine made six-figures on the ebook he published. He did that. Had it stayed as a dream, his life would have been as it always was.
Dreams are imaginary. Goals are based in reality.
You may dream of being Superman, but that is probably not going to happen. Goals are about what you can actually accomplish. They are grounded in the reality of our world. Goals should be big, but not supernatural.
Goals have a finish line. Dreams never have to end.
Dreams can go on forever. They don’t have to have an ending point. Goals must have a specific outcome.
Dreams can inspire you. Goals can change your life.
Dreams can bring you motivation. They can inspire you. But, goals can change your life forever.
Goals must have focus. Dreams don’t.
Dreams can be drifting, ever-changing thoughts. Goals must be laser-focused. They must be specific and they must be always on your mind.
Goals require hard work. Dreams just require your imagination.
Dreaming is easy.
Almost everyone has a dream. But, fewer people have goals.
Goals are hard and they require hard work. (See #3)
Dreams stretch your imagination. Goals stretch you.
Dreaming leads to bigger dreams. They stretch the limits of your imagination. But, goals stretch you. They increase your skills, your abilities, and change you forever.
Goals Do Come True 完成目標
Dreams can inspire you, but goals can change your life.
Sometimes it only takes one step to change a dream into a goal.
Yet, it can take years to take that goal to the finish line.
Always dream big, but make sure your goals are just as big.
Because dreams don’t come true… but goals do.